Projects
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Read more : Last updated April 13, 2025
HREL Project
My Healthy Relationships (HREL) Project had one primary goal, to start: creating a resource for comparing needs and wants in a new or established relationship using relationship anarchy principles. I hated all the existing resources on this: smorgasbords and menus galore, as my husband put it so kindly, "make me feel like I'm ordering a rent-a-boyfriend". So I wanted to fix it! Using the skeleton of a better-known (and thankfully MIT-licensed) project, the KinkSheet, as well as a couple of those "menu" resources, I developed a page called Relationship Components.
Of course, I'm gay and extra. How could I stop there? When I finished my first Relationship Components sheet, I thought: what good is this without several alternative versions and a wiki?
I'm still working on it, but I'm ridiculously excited to share this stuff when it's ready.
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Grief Project
My Grief Project is a lot of things: part shrine/ancestor altar, part documentation of my experience learning to cope with compounded complex grief, and part resource for others.
I grew up with death. Over and over again, I found myself losing the "safe adults" in my life, and had to reckon with the possibility of losing others- advanced breast cancer diagnoses, in particular, were a huge contributor to my living nightmare for a couple of years there. I thought I'd be desensitized to death, after all that, as I'd experienced both sudden and expected death over and over again. But all that exposure still couldn't prepare me for what I would face as an adult.
In between graduating high school and my class' five-year reunion, I became the only living member of my project group in AP Computer Science. My closest friend in that group died of brain cancer; the other two, suicide. Each of those funerals wrecked me. Then, in the first half of 2023, I lost both biological grandfathers, though I'd never met one of them, the "grandfather" who helped raise me, and my stepmom, seemingly all at once. As icing on the cake, I was working a job that made me want to kill myself as well. Oh, and they fired me 3 days after asking for PTO to go to my stepmom's funeral.
Naturally, I was kind of fucked up about all that. So, I went to therapy about it. Girl was too busy comparing me to other clients and praising me for intellectualizing my problems to actually help me, unfortunately, and unsurprisingly, I didn't actually process any of it.
Cut to 2025. My relationships are falling apart. I feel like a shell of a man. Everyone is comparing me to who I was a nebulous "two years ago". I feel broken. During an argument with my husband, it hits me: it's all this grief I never unpacked. So... I'm here to unpack it. Wish me luck!
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Sex Ed Project
In another lifetime, I spent a considerable amount of my "free" time peer-teaching sex education topics at an all-girls public high school. I learned so many horrible things about our education system in that time, but the most valuable lesson this taught me was that I love to teach. That was the most rewarding job I've ever had, and it sticks with me.
Much of the work was in the form of creating resources. I wrote my own presentations. I did my own research. I cited all my sources. And I made sure that even my high school seniors who needed help sounding out the word "education" had access to my material, whatever it took.
Anyway, what better to do with that experience than make those resources available for anyone who might need them? For free?
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